A loved one expressing their fear of living in a nursing home may pull on your heartstrings and draw upon your natural desire to promise them “never.” But who can predict the future? It’s wise to respond realistically while still honoring their concerns.
How Parkinson’s affects communication
Parkinson’s disease can make communication difficult. A rigid face and monotone voice project nonverbal cues that may not line up with what the person with Parkinson’s is actually feeling. There are ways to offset these challenges and clarify emotional content and meaning.
Completing an advance directive
What would happen if your loved one couldn’t speak for themselves? How would decisions for their care be made? An advance directive puts that guidance in place before a crisis. It’s simple to complete, doesn’t require an attorney, and ensures that treatment preferences are followed.
What is “sundowning”?
If a loved one with cognitive decline becomes more anxious or restless in the evening, it may be sundowning, a common pattern in dementia. Solutions include consistent routines, better lighting, and setting a calm tone for the latter half of the day.
Father’s Day without Dad
After the death of a parent, holidays such as Father’s Day can feel very emotional and often stir up grief. Still, there are many ways to celebrate and honor the best of your dad, even if he is no longer with you.
Repetitive questions
Are you frustrated answering the same question over and over? You aren’t alone. Repetitive questions are a common and exasperating behavior in the early stage of dementia, but there are ways to help.
Watching for financial abuse
Financial abuse of older adults is more common—and closer to home—than many families realize. It doesn’t come only from scams; it often involves someone your loved one knows and trusts. Knowing the warning signs and staying involved can help you protect them.
Solutions to hearing loss
Hearing loss is a common problem that comes with age. And it is often a frustrating experience for both the older adult and those around them. Luckily there are many ways to improve communication and understanding.
Preparing for in-home care
Bringing in outside help for an aging loved one can take a lot of weight off your shoulders as a family caregiver. Before the help begins, there are several things to consider and communicate clearly about, including safety, routines, and backup plans.
What is an occupational therapist?
If the person you care for is struggling with seemingly simple tasks such as eating, dressing, or getting up or down from a chair, an occupational therapist may be able to help. They can recommend changes to help your loved one remain independent and do the things they enjoy.
Mealtime and dementia
Caring for someone with dementia can make mealtimes challenging. Small changes, such as reducing noise and simplifying the table, can help make eating easier and less stressful.
Helping a loved one pay bills
It can be tough for older adults to hand over control of their finances to family members. At the same time, they might also need some extra help staying on top of monthly payments. Luckily, there are techniques and tools you can use to keep things running smoothly.
Preventing caregiver burnout
As common as it is to be stressed while caring for an aging loved one, the potential for “vital exhaustion”—burnout—should be taken seriously. Doing your best to avoid it is important for yourself and for those who rely on you.
Do you know their wishes?
It might be uncomfortable to talk to your loved one about their preferences for life-sustaining treatment. No one likes to think about worst-case scenarios. But it’s very important that their desires be understood and documented should they ever be unable to speak for themselves.
Cleaning out the medicine cabinet
Is it time to do some spring cleaning in the medicine cabinet? April 25 is National Drug Take Back Day. Learn more about safe disposal methods for drugs that are no longer needed.
Managing a loved one’s digital life
More and more of our lives are online now, including those of older adults. That can be helpful … until a relative becomes incapacitated and no one knows their passwords. Taking time for digital planning now can save family caregivers from big headaches later.
When you’re a male caregiver, it’s different
Are you a man caring for an aging loved one? According to studies, you probably face some unique challenges, ranging from unfamiliar household tasks and workplace pressures to emotional isolation. Though it may be tough to reach out, finding connection and community support is critical.
Help with choosing a hospital
Think all hospitals deliver the same level of care? It’s a good idea to check their track records. Easy-to-use online tools can give you an idea of how facilities score on safety, quality, and patient experience.
Making medical decisions in a crisis
Many decisions that family caregivers need to make, happen with a long lead time. Sometimes, however, things change abruptly and you may need to make a big decision quickly. Learn how to make the wisest decisions possible when the need is urgent.
Dementia and long-distance caregiving: Staying connected
Even from miles away, you can stay meaningfully connected to a loved one with dementia. Thoughtful visits, simple tech, and steady communication make a big difference.
What is bradycardia?
A slower-than-normal heart rate can be common in older adults, but it’s important to know when it may signal something more serious. If your loved one is feeling dizzy, weak, or lightheaded, it may be time to talk with a medical professional.
Protecting your relationship while caregiving
Caring for a family member is demanding, and that stress can spill over into your marriage or close relationships. But with balance, communication, and shared support, it can bring you even closer.
The importance of sleep
When life gets busy, as it often does for family caregivers, sleep is often the first thing that is sacrificed. But that can be a mistake as serious as skipping food or water. Quality sleep fuels brain function, emotional balance, immunity, and so much more.
Age-related macular degeneration
February is Age-Related Macular Degeneration Awareness Month. While vision already lost cannot be restored, this common cause of legal blindness luckily can be slowed with a combination of diet and lifestyle changes. Learn how you can help your loved one.
The brain-healthy plate
The MIND diet combines healthy, whole foods to support cognitive wellness. Focus on helping your aging loved one incorporate a wide range of choices such as greens, grains, and berries, while cutting back on processed foods. Small daily changes can make a lasting difference.
Creating an Emergency Room “go bag”
Trips to the ER are generally stressful by nature, but they can be made less so with some preparation. Learn what to have ready for the next time your loved one needs emergency care.
Getting support from your spiritual beliefs
Boosting your spiritual practice may be your simplest route to becoming a stronger, less stressed family caregiver.
Considering a remodel?
Discover changes that can help your loved one “age in place,” as well as tips for finding a qualified contractor.
Sage advice from elders
As we near the end of the year, it’s a natural time to reflect on the big picture. Older adults have a lot to teach us about life. If you’re searching for some perspective, check out The Legacy Project, which spent many years compiling practical tips from wise elders.
Caring for feet
Our feet and toes change as we age, and those small changes can lead to big issues with balance, comfort, and mobility. Keep an eye on your aging loved one’s feet and don’t ignore signs such as pain, swelling, or thickened nails.
Balancing caregiving and work
Of the millions of Americans caring for aging loved ones, 61% also have jobs. If you are one of them, you know just how hard it is to stay on top of everything, not to mention find time for yourself, too.
Whose idea was this, anyway?
Many family caregivers feel they had no choice about taking on primary responsibilities for a parent’s care. Learn tips for reducing family conflict … and your own resentments!
Dementia and long-distance caregiving: Building a team
If there’s an aging loved one with dementia in your life but you don’t live nearby, you may be feeling some combination of guilt, concern, and helplessness. Building a local team is one of the most important things you can do.
Anemia in older adults
Perhaps because its symptoms can be mistaken as normal aging, anemia often goes undetected in older adults. We discuss how to spot the signs and make sure your loved one gets the care they need.
What is hospice?
Learn more about this free Medicare service that focuses on comfort care and support for you and your loved one.
Safe traveling for older adults
A quick checkup with the doctor and a few preventive strategies can go a long way toward ensuring an enjoyable trip, with reduced chances of having to cut it short.
Honoring a veteran’s story with an audio memoir
Veterans Day, coming up next month, is a great time to consider preserving the stories of your aging loved ones who served. One option is to make a recording together. It could be a deeply meaningful experience for everyone involved!
Preventing a second heart attack
Optimal recovery from a heart attack includes serious lifestyle changes. Find out what you can do to help your loved one reduce the chance of a recurrence.
Time to switch Part D plans?
It’s Medicare Open Enrollment time! October 15 to December 7 is your aging loved one’s chance to review and update their Part D prescription plan. Plans change every year, affecting cost and coverage, so it pays to understand the details.
Digital assistants and older adults
As digital assistants become more commonplace, family caregivers might wonder what these devices can do to help their aging loved ones stay independent and safe at home.
How to report symptoms to the doctor
If you care for an older adult who needs medical attention, it helps for you both to know the best way to clearly describe symptoms. The better the communication, the more accurately a doctor can diagnose what’s wrong.
Packing a “go bag”
Disasters can strike fast. Would your aging loved one be ready to go? A well-packed emergency “go bag” can help immensely, providing essentials such as medications, documents, and comfort items. Take time now to prepare one so it’s ready to go when it matters.
Reducing the risk of falls
Falls are a big cause of injury among older adults, but many can be prevented by taking the right steps. A fall risk assessment by a doctor can help catch potential dangers early. Staying active with balance, strength, and aerobic exercises can also greatly reduce the risk.
Finding time to grandparent
Having trouble balancing your duties as a family caregiver with maintaining a connection with your grandchildren? It might help to reframe your expectations and get creative about how you show up in their lives.
Talking to your parents about money
It’s smart to be prepared to step in if something comes up that leaves your parent unable to handle their finances. But money can also be a very sensitive subject. Check out our simple conversation starters to get the ball rolling.
The powers and limits of HIPAA
Most people are familiar with the term HIPAA and know that it somehow relates to sensitive health information. But the details of what exactly it means for family caregivers can be confusing.
What is shingles?
For National Immunization Awareness Month, we take a closer look at shingles and the importance of older adults getting vaccinated. It’s a simple way to protect your loved one not only from the pain associated with the condition, but from other complications, too.
The long goodbye of anticipatory grief
You may think grief comes only after a death. But if you have an aging loved one in your life, watching them change and move closer to the end of their life can stir up feelings of grief long before they are gone.
How to discourage wandering
Are you constantly watchful that your loved one with dementia doesn’t slip out the door? Check out our tips for reducing the common problem of wandering.
Savoring good experiences
Like a good meal, good memories can be savored. It turns out that intentionally reliving positive moments retrains your brain to notice and savor the current positives in your life. What a yummy way to feel happier!
Medicare help at home
Caring for an ill, aging loved one who is at home? There might be resources covered by Medicare that could help lighten the load.
Living with essential tremor
Watching a loved one struggle with essential tremor can be tough—but there are ways to help. Simple swaps such as weighted utensils or slip-on shoes can make life a little easier. But just as important is finding the right emotional support.
What is an enrichment program?
Staying engaged in activities and connected to a sense of purpose is very important to the health and well-being of older adults. This is especially true for those facing new challenges. If you need help making sure your loved one is getting the engagement they need, consider an enrichment program.
When there is a cancer diagnosis
Learn what you can do to support your aging loved one during this tough time.
Choosing a nursing home
If your loved one needs full-time care and supervision, they may need to relocate to a nursing home. But how do you decide which one is the best fit?
Planning a celebration of life
Searching for a heartfelt way to honor someone after they’ve passed? Consider a celebration of life. These events leave a lot of room for creativity and can help honor your loved one’s legacy in a deeply personal and positive way.
What is “prediabetes”?
Prediabetes is more common than you might think, especially in older adults. The good news? Simple lifestyle changes, such as healthy eating and exercise, can lower blood sugar and reduce the risk of developing diabetes.
Benefits of memory care
If dementia is making it hard for a loved one to live independently, memory care can provide the specialized support they need. These facilities offer a safe and comfortable environment with extra staff, simplified building layouts, and activities that promote engagement.
Stress relief: only a breath away
Does caring for a loved one leave you feeling overwhelmed sometimes? Certain breathing patterns can calm your mind, reduce anxiety, and boost your well-being—anywhere, anytime. If you’re feeling stressed and need a moment to reset, try a simple technique such as box breathing.
Essential tremor: The basics
Essential tremor is a common but often misunderstood condition affecting many older adults. It causes involuntary shaking that is non–life threatening but can certainly affect your loved one’s quality of life. Learn more about how to get a diagnosis and explore treatment.
What is the Platinum Rule?
April 16 is National Healthcare Decisions Day! You’ve probably heard of the Golden Rule, but do you know about the Platinum Rule? If you’re in charge of making decisions on behalf of an older adult, this motto can be a compass for you as you navigate that role.
Treating yourself as a friend
Being a family caregiver means balancing love and support with the weight of responsibility. Don’t forget to treat yourself with the same kindness you show others! Instead of self-criticism, try compassion. Research shows it helps you cope better, stay positive, and even take better care of your health.
Who covers you in an emergency?
Life is unpredictable. There’s a good chance that at some point the person who takes care of your aging loved one—whether that’s you or someone else—will have an emergency. By creating a backup plan, you take control and ensure your loved one is cared for, even when the unexpected occurs.